How trust is lost

Regaining the connection to the trust in ourselves and learning how to restore this resource back into our lives is one of the basic approaches to emotional and spiritual healing.

We are born as tremendously sensitive, open, vulnerable beings, with no apparent knowledge of who we are, where we are, how we shall be taken care of, or who the people are surrounding us. We have no language and only a very limited repertoire of resources on how to survive and cope with our reality.

Over time, we develop the ability to express joy, love, contentment, and serenity, and attach ourselves to the people who regularly show up in our awareness and provide comfort and release from our distress.

 

 

In this immensely vulnerable state of being, we need to viscerally experience the environment as more or less holding us, as it felt in the womb of the mother. We then feel taken care of, protected, loved, and held in such a way that we can grow spontaneously and naturally in our own individual way. We need an environment that is dependable, consistent, and attuned to our needs, and that provides for us in a way that is empathic and supportive.

 

 

To be able to have any chance of surviving in this totally exposed reality that we are thrust into, we need to be in possession of unconditional trust.   

At such a young age we are, for most of the time immersed in this trust, we have no resistance or defensiveness to our ongoing experiences. Our trust may become temporarily veiled but arises in us again shortly after experiences of pain, discomfort, or confusion are resolved.

This unconditional trust is not then trusting in something, some person, or some situation. The point I am trying to make is that trust is an inherent quality in our nature like our bones have calcium.